“I mean like when the kid is 25, the mother will be 65!” Many opponents of first time moms in their 40s cite this statement as if it was the winning point in tiebreaker game.   

They would probably grasp that many of us older moms have the audacity to have not only one baby but two after age 35. 

Although women giving birth or adopting a baby in their late 30s and 40s is becoming more common, there are still people who seem to believe all the inaccurate data about older moms and even more so about people in their 60s. 

I would ask them to consider the following:

1)  A 25-year-old is no longer a “kid.” A 25-year-old is a young adult and often is married and may have a kid of his or her own.

2) While I know that all moms play a vital role in their children’s lives (whether the children are adults or preschoolers), I assume that my child will be more independent at age 25 than she was at age 5.

3) Finally and most important, I encourage getting to know a 65-year-old. Many lead active productive lives.

When my grand aunt was 65, she was getting married for the first time.

The real Cha Ching (urban slang) or money didn’t start coming in for Harland David "Colonel" Sanders until he was 65 when he founded Kentucky Fried Chicken.

Laura Ingalls Wilder who wrote Little House on the Prairie didn’t publish her first novel until she was 65 years old.

Edith Wilma Connor entered - and won -her first bodybuilding competition at the age of 65.

My grandfather who has children over the age of 65, celebrated his 101 birthday in May. Last year at his birthday party, he not only gave acceptance speeches for various awards, but he danced at his 100th birthday party!

I encourage all people, especially younger moms, to keep an open mind about older moms. You never know what the future will bring. After all, if you are 20-something and are a mom, one day you may have to assume custody of your grandchild. Then you will realize that being a good mom is based on love and not age.


  1. Well said. Wise words. It's also good to bear in mind that 'you don't have to be older to become ill or even die'. A younger parent can succumb to either just as an older parent can. Love is all that matters.

  2. Claire, you certainly speak/write the truth.

  3. Remain blessed Cynthia for this post. Just re-tweeted it.

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  5. Too often older people are treated like an alien race by the younger crowd...that is until they need advice on raising kids. Then we become fountains of knowledge and wisdom. There is something to be said about the differences in "babies" having babies and those of us who have the courage to actually understand what it means to be responsible for the edification of another future adult, and still choose to have that child after thirty-five years of living. Thanks for your great comments.

  6. Anna, thanks for your encouraging comments. I especially like your "the edification of another future adult" comment.

  7. God gives us the mental and physical strength to care for our children, regardless of our age. Love is a very motivating factor, and we do what we have to do.

    For those who have issues with parenting - and it happens with all ages - I believe something has lessened or killed the motivation.

  8. Good point Anita about love and motivation. I am so thankful that God does give us the love and strength to care for our little ones.

  9. Yep! As a first time mommy at 42 y/o I sometimes feel like the "mom with 2 heads" when I am among my peers in my community; where it is not unusual to be grandmother by 35.

  10. CurlySaint, thanks for your comment. Be encouraged there are ALOT of us first time moms over 40 out there!