Be Empowered By Your Age!

Thanks again to Marie Roker Jones for having me as a guest on Raising Great Men on Friday. I didn’t realize my southern accent was so heavy (smile).The interview was recorded so you can still hear the interview by following the link listed in November 8th post. I’m also thankful as I have grown older, I’m less impressed with a person’s social or economic status and more impressed with the person’s attitude. I am empowered by the life lessons I have learned. I’ve realized that age can be an advantage for older moms as I have posted in this article in Parent Society: http://parentsociety.com/todays-family/parents-40/first-time-moms-over-40-speak-up/

8 comments:

  1. Thanks for posting and sharing your wisdom and very helpful insights with us! I am excited to pass to you the Sunshine Award for your blog. I enjoy reading your articles and think that you are a worthy candidate :)
    http://sahmcity.blogspot.com/2011/11/sunshine-award.html

    God Bless,
    Jackie

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  2. Jackie, thank you so much for your encouragement through your comments and your blog. I am honored to accept the Sunshine Award!

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  3. I read some of your posts and really like this blog. Although I am not over 40. I had my 2 young kids both in my early 30's (separate pregnancies not twins) but I often feel kinda 'lost' age-wise because I am neither in my 20's (which most first-time moms are) or in my 40's (which a lot of your group is in). So I am 'stuck in the middle' often. Do you have any words of inspiration for those in my type of situation? I can see that the young moms think I am 'old' - and on the other hand I didn't have to go through anything complicated like some of the 40+ moms did (not saying they all had complex pregnancies of course). So I sometimes find it hard to relate to other moms' experiences because I am in what seems like an unpopulated 'middle'. I am sure there must be other first-time moms conceiving in their 30's but sometimes it doesn't feel like it! Any words of wisdom or encouragement?

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  4. Gigi,thanks so much for your comments. I like your term “an unpopulated middle.” My first suggestion is to read one of my older blogs “All Moms Deal With Misconceptions.” http://inseasonmomreflections.blogspot.com/2011/06/all-moms-deal-with-misconceptions.html You’re right, there are A LOT of 30-something first time moms. If you are encountering 20-something moms who think you’re old or if you find it hard to relate to the experiences of some 40-something moms, try concentrating more on what you have in common. You’ll probably find that you may have a lot in common with a few of the moms: your values and the ages of your children.

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  5. I'm the product of a teenaged mother (she was 17 when she had me). I was so embarrassed by a 30-something year old mother who used her 16 year old daughter as a convenient taxi driver for her to pick up new "step dads".

    By the time I'd turned 21, I'd graduated college early and was working hard on an investment banking career. I married the wrong man. By the time I was 35, I realized I was living an isolated, career-focused life with an abusive alcohol. I learned I was completely infertile. So, I worked. He drank. And I left.

    I've been struggling with the issue of whether to have a child or not for the past 5 years of my new relationship. He insists he doesn't want kids, as he has teenaged kids to a previous marriage. Yet, I can't turn off the body-clock. I want what I want.

    Now I'm 40. I've left it too long. My career, my bad marriage and my subsequent bad choice in a partner who believes my life revolves around his ex's children make this solely my fault, I know.

    But, all I see online is the argument that says I'm mean and cruel for giving birth to my first so late. (try growing up with an immature teenaged mother - then tell me about immature and BROKE for the first 20 years of your life).

    Yet, I see a very close friend who gave birth at 26, only to suffer a mortal asthma attacjk at 28, leaving her 2 year old daughter in the care of her unstable, financially-broke mother. I see a much-loved 42 year old close friend who gave birth to her sixth child at the age of 44.

    And, so I thank you. This site has given me a renewed sense of strength. I'm financially rich, with a great passive income. I don't need to work ever again if I don't choose to. I can spend time with my baby without child care or day care.

    I choose to call my IVF specialist in the morning and proceed.

    Yes, I'll lose my fiance for this decision. He's made it clear he'll leave if I proceed. Yes, I'll find it difficult. Yes, I'll need IVF to even get started.

    But I wanted to say thank you for showing me I'm not alone. :)

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  6. Thanks for sharing part of your life with me. You are blessed with the maturity, finances and love, which will make you a great mom. Your encouraging comments reaffirmed what I believe is one of God’s paths for me: providing support to first time moms and women who want to become moms over 35 and 40 and dispelling the myths about becoming an mom after 35 and 40. When time permits, I want you to read the other articles on this blog and on InSeason Mom (www.inseasonmom.org) Congratulations on using your inner strength to move forward!

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  7. Hi, new follower/FB fan here. Glad to find you. Love what you're doing. Hubby and I just turned 40. We have a 20year old and a surprise 3year old :)

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  8. Did you hear me laughing when I visited your blog? I like your blog! I really appreciate the sacrifices you and your family have made for our country. Your 3 year old surprise is so cute! Thanks for following!

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